woman waiting for a wallHave you recently been out with a guy and you seemed to get on really well, he even said something like, ‘let’s do it again sometime’, or ‘I’ll call you’, but the days or maybe even weeks have gone by and still no phone call?

We’ve all been there at some point or another. The frustration of waiting for a guy to call us day after day, but that day never comes. But what did we do wrong?!

As strange as this behavior can seem, there can be a number of reasons why a guy may not call you after the first date. When you are faced with such a situation, it is normal to wonder if you should call him, send him a text, wait it out or simply not worry about it anymore and just simply move on.

In order to figure out what to do next, it is best that you do what you can to try to understand why he didn’t call you back in the first place.


If you feel as though you hit it off on your date and you exchange information, but he does not call, there could be something else that is going on. Men will sometimes have a difficult time when sharing the hard truth about their feelings with women they just met. If you invite him to be honest by asking right out if he is interested, you could save yourself a lot of time and energy.

A Fling?

If a guy really likes you, but deep down all he wants is a casual encounter, he may sense that you are not that kind of woman and simply move on. This could be that the timing is off, he has respect for you, and what he is thinking by not calling you back is his way of saying it indirectly. In this situation, leave it alone as he could be doing you a big favor by not calling.

If you’re looking to get into a proper relationship but the guy is at that time in his life where all he wants or has time for is a fling, then you could end up getting messed about or hurt if you pursue this situation.

No Interest

frustrated woman waiting for a callIn some cases, it could just be that he’s really not that into you. He could have been interested at first, but maybe something happened where he changed his mind and switched off without you realizing it.

Of course, this can happen to anyone. Not everyone is going to be attracted to you, just as you are not attracted to every guy you meet. So getting a little perspective on the situation can really help to soften the blow.

You need to take a step back and relax a bit, because if he wants to call, he will. There are some guys who are just poor with communication and going back to the honesty, they will have issues when telling you that he is no longer interested.

Could he have lost your number? Maybe he forgot to call? The bottom line with each scenario is that if there is a will, there is a way. If you have a first date with a guy and then you do not hear from him, don’t push it. While some guys like to have a woman who is assertive, some are going to be turned off by a girl calling or texting right away after the first date.

Keep your options open at a time like this and meet someone new. If he really is into you, then he would typically contact you within about three days of your initial meeting. So if it is already passed the 72hr mark and he still hasn’t contacted you in any way, take a deep breath and prepare yourself to move on.

Match.com has some great advice here about what you should do after the first date. They suggest that it is okay to text on the way home after the first date but definitely not call. They also suggest how long you should wait for a call from the guy and how to handle the first 24hrs after your encounter. It’s a great read!