a zodiac wheelThe practice of astrology has been around for thousands of years and continues to be popular everyday. At the moment there is a lot of trending activity in the relationship space about astrology as more and more people seem to be turning to this mystical form of divination in order to decipher their current relationship or to gain insight into a new relationship that is potentially blossoming.

When someone uses astrology for relationship purposes, it is known as Synastry. Synastry has been practiced for thousands of years and continues to be popular in modern day life.

Everyone’s had the experience of feeling attraction for someone who they don’t necessarily consider “their type”. This leaves many of us to wonder if there are then other forces at work or perhaps even pre-determined destiny.

For a lot of people, this is just utter nonsense. However, there are a great many people believing that astrology does, in fact, have an influence on love and romance. Cosmopolitan has a great article on this here. We really enjoyed reading this article and was the initial spark for us writing this post. I hope you enjoy it, too!

Many other websites are also talking about specific things that attract different people depending on their zodiac sign, which proves that this is, indeed, a very popular subject.

For example, Scorpio’s are said to be more attracted to people who are honest, trustworthy, passionate and have a great sense of style, according to the Scorpio Men website. Their article on attracting a Scorpio gives details on what to do and not to do to get him under your spell.

I looked up my zodiac sign, which is Libra to see if people were writing similar things about me and lowe and behold, I also find several other articles like this one on things to do to attract a Libra woman and things to do to attract a Libra man.

Interestingly, it turns out that most of the info out there on these subjects are written for women, so it seems that women are generally more into the whole horoscope thing than men. Although there are also articles out there to help the guys.

All this noise on the subject kinda gives us the feeling that we’re onto something here so we thought we’d throw out two cents in for our readers.

Are People Really Attracted To Other Dependent On Star Sign Characteristics?

Being a Libra myself, I am often sceptical of such things. However, interestingly Libran’s are said to be most attracted to people who are Capricorn, which is the star sign of my partner. On thinking back to my past relationships, I realised that another three ex-partners were also Capricorn, which is quite considerable since I have only had eight romantic partners in my life. That’s fifty percent! Hmm, this got me wondering…

Conversely, I was a bit disappointed to find that Capricorn’s are not supposed to be instinctively attracted to Libran’s, according to all the hype out there. But rather, they are said to have the most attraction towards Sagittarius people. Hmm, my sister’s Sagittarius, I hope my boyfriend doesn’t find her more attractive than me!

Taking to one of my favorite websites on the net, YouTube, I found that there are also an abundance of videos on the topic including this one, which explains why we’re attracted to some people according to their signs and not others. Amazingly, this video only has around fifteen-hundred views at present, but thirty-four of those people liked the video with a thumbs up against only one solitary person who gave it the thumbs down. So this can either indicate that the majority of people watching these videos to in fact agree that astrology is a credible predictor for romance or the majority of people watching these videos are just pro astrology.

This is a great, new updated video about this topic. I hope you enjoy it.

Popular opinion

From all this research I then decided to ask the opinions of my friends. I was actually surprised to find that across the ones I asked (seventeen in total), around 740% of them believed that star signs can influence who you’re attracted to. I was then compelled to do a Google search to find out how many Americans on average believe in astrology. While the statistic isn’t quite as high as my crude little survey, it still showed that around 29% of people living in America believe in astrology, which the majority of those being women. This was covered in an article that I found on Mashable.com. You can see the article here.

To be fair, thirteen of the friends I asked are women, so given the previous findings, I guess it’s not surprising that the percentage is actually quite high. It would be interesting to do another survey asking an equal number of men and women and then a third survey of say ten people from each star sign. Perhaps this will be a topic for a future blog post!

a girl textingOkay ladies, listen up! Men love it when you talk dirty to them. It makes them feel wanted and if you know anything about men, they need to feel like they are wanted.

Now, you can beat around the bush in telling him how much you want him, need him, and can’t wait to be with him, or you can talk dirty to him to get him really hot and bothered!

Are you feeling a bit uncomfortable reading this or at the thought of sending those naughty little messages? Don’t worry, you aren’t alone as many women don’t feel totally comfortable talking dirty to their man at first as it can take a little practice. However, when you talk dirty to your man via text message, it can make it far easier than face to face.

Once you get started and you start to see how much he is loving it you will be surprised at how quickly you get into the groove and enjoy playing with him in this way. Basically, the more you do it, the easier it will become. Continue reading to learn some helpful tips you can use right now as you make your man feel wanted, horny and eager to see you.

Tips For Sexting Your Man

First of all, do what you can to find out what your man likes and doesn’t like. Pay attention to what really seems to turn him on in particular when the two of you are together. Once you have some sexting ammo, start to use it to your advantage to send his pulse racing as he reads your messages.

The more personal you can make your dirty talk, the more it will affect your man and keep him on his toes waiting for the next text from you. For instance, if he really likes role play and you know he likes nurses, text him about you being a naughty nurse that can make his sexual fantasies come true.


Next, find the appropriate times to text your man with your dirty talk. If you know he’s in a meeting, try not to interrupt him with your texts because your words will be getting him all hot and bothered. The last thing he will want is to get wood in the middle of an important meeting! And you know you don’t want him getting that way when he’s in a room with co-workers. Also, make sure that he doesn’t leave his phone unattended or you may end up talking dirty to someone other than your man and that never ends up good.

a guy receiving a text messageStart Off Slow

One way to start is by being a bit more subtle at first and then gradually turning up the heat with your naughtiness. This is usually preferred by women who are not so used to sexting. If you are more confident or if you have some experience with dirty talk then you can surprise him out of the blue with a slutty message. Telling him what you want to do to him or how it feels so good when he does ‘X’ to you can be an excellent way to raise his eyebrows and um, a smile.

Use Pauses

One great way to be more seductive speaks more softly to strategically use pauses at specific times while you are talking. The texting equivalent of this would be to send a short message but don’t quite finish what you are saying and press ‘send’. Then sending the second or third part of the message a minute or so after the first one. This can help to create some curiosity and intrigue as he eagerly waits for your next message, wondering what you are going to say.

Get Dirty With It

When you are ready and you feel the time is right, start to use those really dirty words to drive him wild. Don’t over-do it, but surprising him with a bit of filth now and then can turn a guy on like you wouldn’t believe. Guys want their woman to be a lady in public, but behave very erotically with him behind closed doors.

You can make this technique even more effective when you use a sensual tonality and whisper the words in his ear. Inserting pauses strategically juts before you say the sexy words will make him hyper-responsive to your suggestions and the suspense will turn him on even more.


As you can see, through taking time to talk dirty to your man through text messaging, you can really help to improve your relationship. Make sure that your dirty talk is something you know he will appreciate. If you aren’t sure what he likes yet, just make your talk generic until you learn more about how to really get under his skin (in a good way). Then, make sure that when you send the texts, you don’t have to worry about someone other than your man reading it. You will open up many doors when you talk dirty to your man and sexual adventures abound can soon follow, which can really spice up your relationship and bring the two of you closer together.

As we mentioned at the beginning of this article, talking dirty to a man makes them feel good as they feel like you really want them. They will then, in turn, be keen to show you how much they appreciate and want you too. This helps to strengthen the connection in your relationship and build a strong bond between the two of you.

woman waiting for a wallHave you recently been out with a guy and you seemed to get on really well, he even said something like, ‘let’s do it again sometime’, or ‘I’ll call you’, but the days or maybe even weeks have gone by and still no phone call?

We’ve all been there at some point or another. The frustration of waiting for a guy to call us day after day, but that day never comes. But what did we do wrong?!

As strange as this behavior can seem, there can be a number of reasons why a guy may not call you after the first date. When you are faced with such a situation, it is normal to wonder if you should call him, send him a text, wait it out or simply not worry about it anymore and just simply move on.

In order to figure out what to do next, it is best that you do what you can to try to understand why he didn’t call you back in the first place.


If you feel as though you hit it off on your date and you exchange information, but he does not call, there could be something else that is going on. Men will sometimes have a difficult time when sharing the hard truth about their feelings with women they just met. If you invite him to be honest by asking right out if he is interested, you could save yourself a lot of time and energy.

A Fling?

If a guy really likes you, but deep down all he wants is a casual encounter, he may sense that you are not that kind of woman and simply move on. This could be that the timing is off, he has respect for you, and what he is thinking by not calling you back is his way of saying it indirectly. In this situation, leave it alone as he could be doing you a big favor by not calling.

If you’re looking to get into a proper relationship but the guy is at that time in his life where all he wants or has time for is a fling, then you could end up getting messed about or hurt if you pursue this situation.

No Interest

frustrated woman waiting for a callIn some cases, it could just be that he’s really not that into you. He could have been interested at first, but maybe something happened where he changed his mind and switched off without you realizing it.

Of course, this can happen to anyone. Not everyone is going to be attracted to you, just as you are not attracted to every guy you meet. So getting a little perspective on the situation can really help to soften the blow.

You need to take a step back and relax a bit, because if he wants to call, he will. There are some guys who are just poor with communication and going back to the honesty, they will have issues when telling you that he is no longer interested.

Could he have lost your number? Maybe he forgot to call? The bottom line with each scenario is that if there is a will, there is a way. If you have a first date with a guy and then you do not hear from him, don’t push it. While some guys like to have a woman who is assertive, some are going to be turned off by a girl calling or texting right away after the first date.

Keep your options open at a time like this and meet someone new. If he really is into you, then he would typically contact you within about three days of your initial meeting. So if it is already passed the 72hr mark and he still hasn’t contacted you in any way, take a deep breath and prepare yourself to move on.

Match.com has some great advice here about what you should do after the first date. They suggest that it is okay to text on the way home after the first date but definitely not call. They also suggest how long you should wait for a call from the guy and how to handle the first 24hrs after your encounter. It’s a great read!

attractive-womanThere has been a great deal of research that is done every year regarding what people will find attractive in the opposite sex. If you are a woman, it is going to be a good idea to dive a bit deeper into some of the top qualities that men will find attractive. Believe it or not, there is a lot more going on in a man’s mind than just looks.

Yes, of course, primarily most men will be attracted to the physical appearance of a woman. However, there is so much more that makes a woman attractive to a guy, and there are various traits that guys are subconsciously drawn to that creates the feeling of attraction in them.

The good news is that many of these traits and qualities have little to do with your physical appearance. That means that over time you can start to incorporate these traits into who you are as a person and begin to manifest a more attractive presence to guys.

These are some of the different qualities that a guy is longing for in a long-term relationship and a partner.


While this may seem like a basic characteristic to some, it can be one of the most important in the eyes of men. The wonderful thing about kindness is that it does not cost a single thing. Even small acts of kindness like letting the other party order first out to dinner, showing consideration to others, showing up on time, and meeting for a quick visit and bringing a snack to share can go a long way.

Guys like this in a woman because it shows them that potentially you may be a good mother to their kids if the two of you were actually to have any together.

a woman being assertive with a guyBeing Assertive

Take being cool and throw it right out the window. Simply showing interest and being assertive by making the first move can be very attractive. If you are new to being assertive, try positive body language. This can include keeping eye contact, leaning in toward him during conversation or even buying his next round.

Although this can me attractive to many guys, it is important not to over-do it. Being subtly assertive from time to time can make a guy start to wonder if you will also be more frisky between the sheets! No guy likes a woman just to lay there in bed while he get’s his groove on. Guys like to be with a woman who will be active, adventurous and passionate in bed. Showing that you have a bit of assertion about you may make them think that you could be more willing to also take the lead occasionally when the lights go out, which is a good thing!

Click here to read more about being sexually assertive with men.


Nobody wants to have a dark cloud looming over them, and attractiveness is much more than skin deep. Men are generally attracted to a woman who is cheerful, positive and pleasant to be around and interact with. While nobody can have a happy face on every day of the week, if you focus on being positive, friendly and are open to meeting different, new people, it will be a win all around.


You wouldn’t like to be lied to, so you need to remember that the street goes both ways. When it comes to attraction, men are always going to be attracted to a woman who can be honest as they can picture a faithful bond in a relationship.

Everyone is different, so when you are looking at different men and what they find attractive in women, there can be variances. However, a lot of the core facets that attract men will remain the same. Overall, be true to yourself and you will be able to attract the right man to be in your life for the long term.

Here are five more simple ways that you can improve your attractiveness to guys.

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We will be speaking out on relationships and dating advice to help our readers to improve that very important area of our lives.

Many people go into a relationship without really taking the time to firstly figure out what it is they truly want and what would deeply fulfil them in a relationship.

Taking the time to reflect and get to know yourself on this level will reveal to you those important values in a relationship that you hold dear. Once one knows this vital information, they will then be more prepared to look for that special person who can match their values, and therefore provide a much more fulfilling relationship.

Rather than focusing on the superficial aspects of a person, such as their looks, what car they drive and so forth, it is important to look for a person who also meets and fulfils the deeper values that you hold dear.

Of course, we all want to know what the opposite sex will find attractive so we can try to emulate that. However, it is far more important to become both familiar and comfortable with yourself, which in turn will not only help you understand what you are looking for so you will start to find a person who is better suited to you, but this process of getting to know yourself will also bring about a quiet confidence that you will start to radiate. People will notice that you are a person who is comfortable with yourself and therefore, around others, which is very attractive.

If you have never had a relationship with someone who shares the same values as you do, then when you meet them you will be in for a real treat! You will be in for a more fulfilling relationship than ever before.

Come back soon for more relationship information from us, so you can be better prepared for the time when you do meet that special someone.

In the meantime, here is a video on how to recognize your soulmate. You only get one chance at a good first impression, so make sure you take advantage of the oportunity when it arises.

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